tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3508797324073998201.post3977108904627883933..comments2013-01-23T15:05:18.364-08:00Comments on Carrie's War: People's reactions to my reactioncbolamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01707442396546506490noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3508797324073998201.post-39848315923580003472011-01-28T02:00:00.701-08:002011-01-28T02:00:00.701-08:00I actually think you're having a very healthy ...I actually think you're having a very healthy response to everything. Ignore the nay-sayers as best you can. Love & hugs.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00591712726706650366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3508797324073998201.post-32426340644277256442011-01-27T13:01:32.107-08:002011-01-27T13:01:32.107-08:00Hi Caroline
There is only one way to cope with thi...Hi Caroline<br />There is only one way to cope with this, and that is your way. I can tell you that is absolutely the correct way. You are amazing, and you have accepted you need the help of your true friends. We are always here for you 24/7 . Loads of love<br /> “ The Driver”Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01990166703717713304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3508797324073998201.post-47961654695621318062011-01-26T15:30:12.494-08:002011-01-26T15:30:12.494-08:00Thanks for all these comforting comments. What an...Thanks for all these comforting comments. What an amazing 14yo boy, and i guess that is the point, we live until we die..<br /><br />Its just what i needed to read tonight, as it has not been a good day. I feel comforted that there is no right or wrong way to deal with this, so in my dad's words, "i'll just keep on, keeping on!"<br /><br />Thanks to you all!cbolamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01707442396546506490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3508797324073998201.post-30144508158553967532011-01-24T14:06:58.289-08:002011-01-24T14:06:58.289-08:00What an interesting question.
Is there really a ...What an interesting question. <br />Is there really a right answer to this? It seems to me that what's right for one person seems totally wrong for another. <br />So why I suppose would anyone expecting a standard approach? <br />The “Coping mechanisms” we all use in different situations are so variable, I walk around talking to myself and apparently now grind my teeth loudly, (some would say that’s not coping :-) I beg to differ!) each of these are ways of physically dealing with questions and finding answers and solutions, are they unusual coping mechanisms? Apparently not. But they work for me… So I suppose the point is what you are doing must be right for You, Kevin and Dennis, otherwise, you wouldn’t be doing it…Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01990166703717713304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3508797324073998201.post-65269130096326078892011-01-24T13:34:12.411-08:002011-01-24T13:34:12.411-08:00Honestly? I have no idea. How would I react in you...Honestly? I have no idea. How would I react in your situation? I don't know. But I hope that it would be in a similar way.<br />I agree with what other people have said; you are living your life, and I dont think there is a manual to tell you what you 'should' or 'shouldn't' do. You simply get on with it as best you can, and to me it sounds as though that is what's working for both you and Kevin.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00740459474336533768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3508797324073998201.post-39908523630191124792011-01-24T12:29:01.471-08:002011-01-24T12:29:01.471-08:00A friends 14 yr old son was dying from leaukemia~h...A friends 14 yr old son was dying from leaukemia~his parents were struggling to come to terms with it. I asked the lad what HE felt about it, he replied ' I don't have to deal with it~ I only have to die, but I want to LIVE till then'.I helped him make a 'memory' box for his parents & he gave me letters for the people he wanted to say goodbye to, then he got on with 'living till I die'. when he saw glum faces he would say 'what are you sad about ~ i'm the one whose got to die & i'm not sad'.He refused to ignore the fact he was dying but insisted on living. An hour before he passed he was playing a riotous board game with family & friends~ we knew he was in a lot of pain but he was dtermined to 'live till he died'~eventually he admitted he was tired, so the game was halted & we all sat around him chatting & laughing,he gently left us~ surrounded by life ~ just as he wanted.<br />I think Kevin is doing much the same thing ~ with your help. What others think doesn't matter~ they are not in your shoes ~ but family & REAL friends should accept that how you & Kevin are coping is the right way for you. I learned one of the true lessons of life & death from a 14yr old who had more wisdom than most of the adults I have ever met.<br />May you & Kevin take love & comfort from each other & cherish the time you have together. xxxxlynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15916470997037054861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3508797324073998201.post-68912767529852562102011-01-24T12:20:04.559-08:002011-01-24T12:20:04.559-08:00I agree with above.. What ever is right for you an...I agree with above.. What ever is right for you and the family is the righ way! there isnt a wrong way. We all deal & cope with things differently. <br /><br />some see "keeping going" as denial, while in many cases, there is no other option. Do people really expect you to down tools completely? Your husband I'm sure wants to see you LIVE.MRShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04728557393246851177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3508797324073998201.post-42448251100399977022011-01-24T11:54:52.676-08:002011-01-24T11:54:52.676-08:00Do whatever works for you.....Do whatever works for you.....Chrissiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10116643420209199858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3508797324073998201.post-27381181359841472192011-01-24T03:49:17.091-08:002011-01-24T03:49:17.091-08:00I think you're dealing with it just fine. I d...I think you're dealing with it just fine. I don't think there's any right or wrong way to go through something like this, but it doesn't stop people from having opinions, does it? As long as you're doing what's best for you and your family, that's all that matters.<br /><br />Hugs from Canada.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3508797324073998201.post-71841119435089665332011-01-23T16:48:34.466-08:002011-01-23T16:48:34.466-08:00Hugs from Tokyo xxxHugs from Tokyo xxxgemstan1981https://www.blogger.com/profile/07415221895885055488noreply@blogger.com